I recently visited a local barber shop in Prosperity. Three barbers were cutting hair, four men were waiting for a hair cut, one lady was waiting for her grandson to have his hair completed. All the chairs were full.
At first, I noticed that of the people waiting most were on their cell phones or resting their eyes. The lady was listening to music and one barber was talking about the NCAA basketball playoffs. The other two were chatting about how they liked their hair trimmed. I then posed a question, “How can we help our children succeed?”
They looked up startled at the question. After probing the subject a bit more, it resulted in a meaningful discussion
One person said teachers mainly spend time with certain students and neglect other students. Another gentleman thought there should be two teachers in each classroom. One of the barbers added that the community should have a mentor program. One gentlemen said a lot of fathers have to work a second job or work overtime to pay child support or pay the bills, and cannot be with their kids.
The lady said “child support should be lowered.” I asked her to elaborate on that point. She feels that if the father of the children paid less child support, they would not have to work so long and be able to spend more time with their children. A few pointed out that both parents needs to be involved in the upbringing of the child.
After leaving the barber shop, I thought about ways that we can help our children and young adults succeed.
The first suggestion would be put away cell phones when around other people. People are really interesting and come up with good ideas. The suggestion of lowering child support for a parent, so the child could spend more time with both parents, was an idea that should be explored.
I would suggest children, and young adults in high school, give more respect to teachers in class by not talking, being attentive to what is being taught and not talking out of turn in class, and disturbing the other students. I have been told by teachers, when parents back up teachers, and work together on education, the classrooms become more interesting, and students excel.
I found, Dr. Ben Carson (still living) and his moms story of great value for families.
His divorced mother with a third grade education, worked at cleaning houses, saw her two boys watching T.V. and no incentives to advance in education. She shut down the T.V. and required her boys to read a book a week, minimum, and give her a written report at the end of the week to be able to watch T.V. Dr. Carson became a brain surgeon and her other son an engineer.
The movie of Dr. Carson “Gifted Hands” with Cuba Gooding would be a great family start. The most critical point, is first putting down the cell phones and watching it together and have a discussion on “how can we help our children, (young adults) and families succeed?”
Till next time!
Louis W. Neiger, CLU, is retired from insurance and security planning, he lives in Newberry. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.