By: Natalie Netzel Contributing Columnist
October 4, 2013
You may not know who Paula Patton is. I certainly didn’t know until she appeared on the Jay Leno show one night.
Patton is the wife of Robin Thicke, the singer known for a controversial song and also for appearing on stage during a controversial MTV awards show with a pop entertainer. He has also appeared with naked women in his video and on a magazine cover.
When asked about what she thought, Patton nonchalantly brushed it off as nothing and doesn’t understand what the big deal is.
She was also quoted in the N.Y. Daily News about the MTV show as saying, “Honestly, they rehearsed for three days beforehand, and I don’t know how not to dance with someone having their booty in your … all my friends do it like that,” she explained. “And I don’t really know what the big deal is.”
No big deal?
How about not respecting the sanctity of marriage?
How about contributing to the moral decline of America?
How about setting a good example for your children?
Now, I would hope that Thicke and Patton’s children haven’t viewed any of this controversy but I’m no expert on parenting and have no right to say how they should parent.
I should also say, I’m no expert on marriage considering I’ve only been a newlywed for almost five months.
However, I am appalled that Patton and other ladies dismiss their husband’s “typical” behavior as okay. Ladies assume that guys are going to be guys and that’s just the way they are.
Well, if an obese person enjoys food and wants to keep eating away until he or she dies from a heart attack, is it just okay? If an addict enjoys what he or she does, whatever it may be, is it just okay?
Everyone has their human traits that are not always desirable but that doesn’t mean it’s just okay to brush away and dismiss as okay.
Marriage is no joke but apparently Americans think it’s just another thing to do from the divorce statistics.
The Centers for Disease Control which comes from census numbers reports that in 2000, the divorce rate per 1,000 was at 4.0 and by 2011 it was 3.6.
The following statistics are from 2003 from the National Center for Health Statistics as seen on Dr. Phil’s show:
For women under the age of 18, 59 percent of marriages end in divorce within 15 years. The divorce rate drops to 36 percent for those married at age 20 or older.
For those between the age of 20-25, 60 percent of marriages for couples end in divorce.
For brides over 25, 50 percent of all marriages result in a failed marriage.
Reasons differ for failed marriages and I am not one to judge but what would happen if people put the respect back into marriage and thought about who they are marrying and why before they just married?
What would marriage look like if people didn’t rush into a marriage after some lustful thoughts and actions and got to know the person?
What if people actually put some effort into making their marriage work, apart from some extreme circumstances such as dangerous, physical abuse?
Show a little respect and honor for marriage.